It’s been a year—a full 365 days—since I slid into a DM, or nervously rehearsed a pickup line in my head. A year of silence in my love life. And let me tell you, the peace? It’s been unmatched. No late-night overthinking, no cryptic texts to decode, no lingering exes with unfinished business.
But here’s the thing about peace: it doesn’t build a family. And for me, that’s the ultimate goal. So now, the quiet ends. I’m back on the scene, ready to dive into the dating pool again—but this time, I’m bringing you along for the ride.
Why? Because this isn’t just about finding love—it’s about finding her. The woman who’ll close this chapter of my life, and, yes, stop writing these stories. I’m searching for “The Blog Ender.”
The Mission: Date With Purpose
This isn’t some gimmicky dating experiment or a clickbait saga. My therapist had this idea: instead of overthinking every interaction or bottling up my feelings, write it all down. Make it a debrief. A reflection. Something therapeutic.
And so, here we are. I’m documenting each date—not just for entertainment (though, let’s face it, modern dating is its own Netflix series)—but as a way to unpack my experiences, learn, and, hopefully, grow.
But let me be clear about my rules for this journey:
- No meaningless swipes. Online dating isn’t my style, and honestly, I’ve written a whole article about why.
- No filler dates. If I’m spending time with someone, it’s because there’s potential for something real.
- No pretending. These stories will be raw, honest, and unfiltered. If I cringe, you’ll cringe. If I laugh, you’ll laugh.
What You Can Expect
Each story will take you through the entire process:
- How We Met: Was it in line at Starbucks? At the gym? Or a random encounter at the farmer’s market? (Spoiler: saying hi still works wonders.)
- The Date Negotiation: The awkwardness, the back-and-forth, and the overthinking on both sides.
- Pre-Date Jitters: What’s going through my head before we meet? Excitement? Doubt? A little bit of both?
- The Date: The good, the bad, and the downright hilarious. From awkward silences to unexpected sparks, you’ll get it all.
- Post-Date Reflections: What did I learn? Did she seem like “The Blog Ender”? Or is this just another chapter in my journey?
And yes, every woman will get a nickname. Think “Coffee Shop Clair” or “Yoga Mat Yasmine.” It’s all about keeping things fun and anonymous.
Why Now?
Taking a year off wasn’t easy. It meant sitting with my mistakes, unpacking patterns, and confronting what I really want. But now, I’m starting fresh. No baggage. No distractions. Just me, the search for my future family, and this blog.
So, here’s my promise to you: I’ll share the highs and the lows. The moments of vulnerability and the outright absurdities of dating in 2024. And who knows? The next post could be about “The Blog Ender.”
But until I meet her, the stories—and the search—continue.